Getting over dating a pathological liar
Romantic liars try to speed the pace of a relationship so that it becomes intense very quickly." "People who con others are generally psychopaths," says Brent Turvey, forensic scientist and criminal profiler at the Academy of Behavioral Profiling in Sitka, Alaska, and author of the just released second edition of "Criminal Profiling: An Introduction to Behavioral Evidence Analysis." Contrary to popular belief, criminality and psychopathy don't always go hand-in-hand, although they certainly often do."Basically, psychopaths view other people as sources of gratification and act accordingly without remorse or conscience.At one end of continuum, you have violent criminals — at the milder end, you have functioning, highly successful narcissists who do well professionally and abide by the law but wreak interpersonal havoc.We live in a culture where self-interest and instant gratification are rewarded, so it's sometimes difficult to spot the psychopaths among us." Turvey adds: "Con artists look for people who have low self-esteem and exploit that.Whatever lies you discover about the psychopath in your life are likely to be just the tip of the iceberg. He could be telling you, or his family, that he has one kind of job while having another kind or being unemployed.He could be saying that he’s rich while being dirt poor.Here's an example: an article entitled, "Prefrontal white matter in pathological liars" found massively (20% ) increased prefrontal white matter, and a 40% decrease grey/white matter ratio in pathological liars, as compared to both controls and antisocials.But before you crack an anatomy book to figure out what that means (more prefrontal white matter= more ability to think and reason), you should know that the subjects they labeled "pathological liars" were really people who purposely and frequently lie to get a gain-- in other words, they were big fat evil scumbag liars, but not pathological liars.
For example, maybe the part of the lie that's important isn't that he saw a guy rob the gift shop and get arrested, but that he was at the -- the point is that he imagines himself a loner, or an artsy type, etc.
However, don't think that just because your man doesn't have a record that he doesn't have antisocial personality disorder (another name for sociopath).
Many of them never get caught because they are phenomenal at covering their tracks.
A relationship with a sociopath will drain you emotionally and often times, financially.
While you may not believe you could be in a relationship with a sociopath, millions of people are and don't even know it until it's too late. He takes advantage of others by being a pathological liar, showing that he has emotion when he doesn't and having no remorse for his wrongdoings.